Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Congratulations!

Graduation ceremonies are an exercise in endurance. They last for hours. The rhetoric is overblown, the regalia stuffy, the speakers pompous.  

I go to a graduation ceremony every year. And I love it.



As a faculty member at the niversity of Phoenix, part of my job is attending the annual graduation ceremony.  

By now, the routines are familiar. This year was no different. Before the ceremony, the faculty lined up on both sides of the convention center hallway. We chatted about everyday things – the classes we were teaching, where we’d eat lunch after the ceremony, and how to fasten those mortarboards on our heads. We complained about the hot robes and admired a fellow instructor’s floral-spicy perfume. We tried unsuccessfully to straighten the velvet hoods that hung down our backs in a rainbow of colors. Some of us wished we’d worn more comfortable shoes.

While we waited to march in, the students paraded down the middle of the hallway, getting in place for their procession.  They looked fantastic, in inky black robes with scarlet satin stoles, tassels swishing back and forth from their caps. Some wore gold honor cords. Some tottered on six-inch stilettos while others sported bejeweled mortarboards.

As faculty members, we turned into cheerleaders. We high-fived students. We screamed out, “Congratulations! You did it!”  We hollered and whooped as if we were at a hockey game.

The cheers were sincere. It is thrilling to see a student wearing that cap and gown, when you’ve seen that student struggle with APA guidelines or thesis statements. It’s exciting to see a student who’s attended class every week, even during a tough pregnancy or while taking care of a terminally ill parent. It’s exciting to see a student in that line who’s spent time in rehab or been wounded in Afghanistan. It’s exciting to see a student graduate when you know he is a single father to a handicapped child.

Teaching adult students is a unique privilege, because we teach students who have real-life problems and challenges. We get to see them overcome those problems and succeed. So we clapped for them. And cheered. And fist-bumped and high-fived and hugged.

The students lined up at the door into the theater. Now it was our turn to march, down the long aisle, to the strains of Elgar’s “Pomp and Circumstance.” As we walked past the students, they returned the favor of cheering and clapping. They shouted out, “Thank you!” They waved and smiled.

“Pomp and Circumstance” played on, as students, faculty, and staff filed into the theater, its tune familiar and stately. I knew the pompous speeches were coming, along with corny jokes and clichés. I knew the list of graduates would be long. I also knew why I love to teach. I straightened my mortarboard and headed down the long stairway to the front of the room.

Monday, July 7, 2014

Love and Marriage

It’s a girl! Well, actually, a beautiful young woman, but “it’s a woman!” doesn’t quite have the same ring. The point is, there is a new girl … er, woman … in the Turner family.

Ethan and Andrea married on May 10, 2014. They dated for four years, so this wasn’t exactly unexpected. But definitely welcome.

The wedding was joyful. The groom was handsome; the bride was beautiful. The weather was sunny and warm - the snow waited until the next day. (Yep, snow in May.) Lots of family members attended, and we had a fantastic time talking, laughing, eating, and sharing memories. The food was great (did I mention both Ethan and Andrea are foodies?) and the flowers elegant (did I mention Andrea has a way with decorating).

Weddings are filled with family, flowers, food, along with a few tears, mishaps, and surprises.  Even butterflies in this case. Of course, it helps when the reception is held at the Butterfly Pavilion. Happy couple, happy family. What more can you ask?

Andrea is a welcome addition to our family. She is lovely and soft-spoken (not the norm in our family). She’s an awesome cook. She is smart and talented. And she loves my son.

Congratulations, Ethan and Andrea!